Kajol and Twinkle Khanna recently found themselves at the centre of a social media storm after comments made on their talk show Two Much. During a candid conversation, the duo suggested that physical infidelity may not necessarily be a deal-breaker in a marriage, with Twinkle summing it up in her signature wit by saying, “raat gayi, baat gayi” (what’s done is done).The remarks drew sharp criticism online, with many accusing the actresses of normalising cheating. Responding to the backlash, Kajol and Twinkle later clarified that their views were shaped by personal experiences and were not meant as relationship advice. They also contrasted their perspectives with Janhvi Kapoor’s more idealistic views on love and marriage, adding a disclaimer that their opinions were strictly personal.
Gautami Kapoor weighs in
Amid the ongoing debate, Gautami Kapoor, who has featured in films like Fanaa, Student of the Year, Shaadi Ke Side Effects and the upcoming De De Pyaar De 2, shared her thoughts in a recent interview with Siddharth Kannan.When asked about the statement, “Physical disloyalty is okay for me, but emotional disloyalty should not be there,” Gautami responded, “See, I don’t know exactly what she has said, and I don’t want to comment on her statement because that’s her thought process. But for the kind of person I am, physical and emotional disloyalty is disloyalty—period.”She added, “It doesn’t matter to me whether it’s physical, emotional, spiritual, transcendental—anything. Disloyalty is disloyalty. What she says is her point of view, and I respect that. This is how she thinks, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But this is how I think, and there’s nothing wrong with that either.”
‘I am fiercely loyal and very possessive’
Reacting specifically to Kajol’s comment that physical infidelity isn’t a deal-breaker, Gautami said she sees things very differently.“I am a very possessive person—honestly speaking. Whether it’s my husband, my friends, my children, or even my team, I’m extremely possessive about the people around me,” she said.Explaining why, she added, “That’s because I am fiercely loyal. I give my 500% in every relationship—emotionally, physically, in all ways. I’m completely invested. So for me, once there’s disloyalty, it takes a huge toll. It becomes a burden I carry.”She further stressed that the nature of the betrayal doesn’t matter to her. “It doesn’t matter whether it’s physical or emotional—it’s still disloyalty. Whether I want to forgive, forget, or move on—that should be my choice. I shouldn’t be undermined by being told, ‘Oh, it was only physical.’ It may be okay for others, but it’s not okay for me.”
On marriage having an ‘expiry date’
Gautami also addressed the comment made on the show about marriage having an expiry date and a renewal clause.“I love Kajol—and I think Twinkle said this—but whoever said it, I love them for it,” she said, adding that such statements may come from experience or even a spontaneous, joking place.However, she noted, “If you really analyse marriage today, I think marriage already comes with an expiry date—if you don’t work on it. If you don’t put your heart and soul into it, it will expire.”Clarifying her stance, Gautami said she doesn’t believe marriage is meant to be temporary by default. “You want it to be for life—but marriage is not easy. You go through many dynamics as a couple,” she explained.“I don’t think we can generalise that marriage should come with an expiry date. I think all marriages already have phases of expiry and renewal. Whether you let it expire or renew it depends on the phase of life you’re in, your mindset, and both partners being on the same page.”
‘People give up too easily today’
Reflecting on modern relationships, Gautami observed that patience is wearing thin. “Earlier, people would say, ‘Let’s figure this out.’ Today, at the first argument, people are ready to call it quits,” she said.Pointing to the pressures of modern life, she added, “There are too many options, too many temptations, and almost no patience. People don’t have the time, hunger, or fire to make something work.”
Still believes in fighting for marriage
Despite the changing times, Gautami said she still believes in working through issues. “I’m not from that generation that gives up instantly,” she said. “If you got married for the right reasons, maybe you can give it another chance. Let’s fight it out. Let’s talk. Let’s work things out.”She concluded by noting that today, “People lack the time, patience, and even the bandwidth to make relationships work.”
