As filmmaker Aditya Dhar continues to bask in the success of Dhurandhar, starring Ranveer Singh, Akshaye Khanna, Sanjay Dutt, Arjun Rampal and R Madhavan, his wife Yami Gautam has spoken candidly about their deeply personal and intimate wedding. In a heartfelt conversation, the actor reflected on how their relationship unfolded organically, without grand gestures or cinematic moments.
‘There was no proposal moment’
Yami revealed that their bond grew quietly during the promotions of Uri: The Surgical Strike. “There was no ‘I am going to propose you’ kind of moment or anything filmy,” she told Humans of Bombay, adding that this simplicity was exactly what made it special. “We just knew that we really want to get married. Our families were extremely aligned and very happy for us.”She shared that even without the pandemic, she would have chosen the same kind of wedding. “I would have loved to get married the same way… just a few family members, everybody’s blessings, and nature around us.”
‘We wanted it to be about rituals’
Describing their hill wedding, Yami spoke about how meaningful tradition was to both of them. “We wanted to make it more about rituals than anything else. We love our traditions, our Hindu culture. Each and everything that is said at that time has a meaning.”She added that the setting felt like a blessing. “For me, to have the mighty deodars in the background, nature blessing us out there in the open… both of us had our hearts in those hills.”
Wearing her mother and nani’s blessings
One of the most emotional moments for Yami was choosing what to wear. “My mom’s saree was always there for me,” she said, explaining how she wanted to look exactly like her mother did on her wedding day.She also revealed that she kept things extremely simple. “I did my own makeup. I thought that’s too far-fetched, but it just worked out. Surilie did my hair,” she said, admitting she hadn’t imagined doing it herself but felt it was right in the moment.She also spoke about the traditional reeda dupatta and pahadi nath, both gifted by her nani and maternal family. “My nani had kept it ever since I was born… that’s exactly how I wanted to get married. There is nothing I would change about that moment.”
‘Trust your instinct, women are intuitive’
Reflecting on relationships, Yami said she strongly believes in instinct. “I think we women are very intuitive by nature. Your first instinct about anyone, if you go back to it, will always be correct,” she said.Calling Aditya a rarity, she added, “Here’s a man who is a rarity in today’s time. That was my first instinct.”
Why Aditya Dhar is her ‘green forest’
Yami recalled small gestures that made a big impact, including one moment during Article 370 promotions when she was pregnant. “He just wanted to make sure that I was comfortable. He got me a pillow,” she said, laughing about how the internet later crowned him a ‘green forest’.She also shared an anecdote told to her by her hair stylist from the Uri sets. “She said she was sitting on the floor eating, and he offered her his director’s chair. She said she has worked on so many films and nobody does that proactively.”
‘Marriage is of families, not just two people’
For Yami, family alignment was crucial. “It was very important that my parents felt the same amount of respect and security with Aditya,” she said, adding that the feeling was mutual. “It’s a marriage of families, not just two individuals.”She revealed that Aditya instantly fit in by simply being himself. “He wasn’t trying to be on his best behaviour. He was cooking, taking charge of what’s going to be made.”
‘Everything just fell into place’
Summing up their journey, Yami said there was no single defining moment. “There was no ‘that moment’ moment. Everything just fell in place. Everyone was loving and respectful towards one another.”She concluded with gratitude and calm certainty. “Maybe we were fortunate. Or maybe this is life rewarding us. Or it’s the kind of person he is and the kind of person I am.”Yami Gautam and Aditya Dhar tied the knot in an intimate ceremony on June 4, 2021, in Himachal Pradesh. The couple welcomed their son, Vedavid, in 2024.
